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Start with a small first step
Choose one person to be the main contact. Write down the questions you still have. Sort out what must be decided now and what can wait a day. You do not need to plan the whole service in one talk.
Preparation
Prepare for a funeral one step at a time.
Getting ready for a funeral is hard on your heart and takes a lot of work. Start small. Bring together a few people. Find a few papers. Write down a few questions. The next choices will feel easier after that.
Legal
Find their wishes and who decides
Look for any written wishes or plans made ahead with a funeral home. Look for a will and any health care or legal papers that name someone to make choices. Also look for military records, cemetery papers, and insurance details. Before you sign any papers with a funeral provider, find out who has the legal right to choose burial or cremation.
Practical
Get your questions ready
When you call funeral homes or cremation providers, ask if they can help and when. Ask for their General Price List. This is a written list of every price they charge. Ask for the total cost they expect. Ask how they will bring your loved one into their care. Ask about rooms for the service and how you can pay. Ask which items may cost extra.
Family
Share the tasks gently
One person can make calls to the funeral home. Another can gather photos and facts for the obituary. Someone else can plan travel or meals. Another can keep track of papers. When each person knows their part, fewer things get missed. That leaves more time to simply be together.
Papers that often help
Full legal name and date of birth. Social Security number and marital status. Parents' names and place of birth.
Military discharge papers and insurance policies. Cemetery papers or funeral plans that were paid ahead. Contacts for clergy or your faith community.
Clothing, photos, readings, and music. Notes for the obituary. Names of people who should be told early.
This page gives general help. It is not legal, money, medical, or religious advice. Rules can differ by state, county, cemetery, crematory, and provider. Please check the details with the right expert or public office.
Keep this somewhere your family can find it
A free family space keeps your wishes, papers, and choices in one place. Then the people you leave behind do not have to guess.