hestiaIdeas for a farewell
Making room for children
Children usually manage funerals better than adults expect, provided someone has told them what will happen and they are allowed to leave. Giving them something to do helps more than keeping them away.
How it can look
- A job each: handing out orders of service, carrying a flower, choosing a song.
- A quiet room they can go to, with someone who is not grieving to sit with them.
- A drawing left in the casket, which many children ask to do if offered.
Words you can use with a funeral director
There will be young children with us. Is there a quiet room they could use, and would it be alright for them to come in beforehand so it is less strange on the day?
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