hestiaIdeas for a farewell
Not leaving them alone
Someone staying with them from death until burial, in shifts through the night. Often reading aloud, often simply sitting. Families who do this frequently say it was the part they were most glad of afterwards.
How it can look
- Shifts through the night, arranged between the family and the community.
- A few hours only, in the evening, which is what many funeral homes can accommodate.
- One person, one night, if that is what is possible.
Words you can use with a funeral director
We would like someone to stay with them until the burial. What hours is your building open to us, and could you make arrangements for the night?
This sits with
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