hestiaIdeas for a farewell
Music that was actually theirs
Not what is usually played, but what they really listened to. The song from the kitchen radio. Something they sang badly and often. One family played a whole album while people arrived, and nobody spoke until it finished.
How it can look
- One song at the start and one at the end, with quiet in between.
- A playlist made by the grandchildren, played softly through the whole gathering.
- Live and imperfect: whoever in the family plays, playing.
Words you can use with a funeral director
We would love to play some of their own music rather than the usual pieces. Would that be possible, and what would we need to bring?
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