hestiaIdeas for a farewell
Walking somewhere together
From the house to the grave, or along a route that meant something. Walking gives people a way to be together without having to talk, and it turns a gathering into something that moves rather than something people sit through.
How it can look
- The last short distance only, from the gate to the grave.
- A longer walk afterwards, to a place they loved, open to whoever wants to come.
- With drums or music, if that is the tradition, or in complete silence.
Words you can use with a funeral director
We would like to walk the last part together rather than drive. Is that something you can arrange, and what would we need to think about?
This sits with
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